Buddy got a bunch of hand-me-downs the other day and Miss M. was very excited to claim the Spiderman shirt. She was exuberant in it. But when I picked her up from preschool she was a little subdued.
"Did everyone love your Spiderman shirt," I asked?
"Everyone said I looked like a boy". What? I couldn't believe what I was hearing. She is in a class with three and four-year-olds. How is this happening already?
"Well, that is the silliest thing I've ever heard. You know that Spiderman is for everyone not just boys, right?"
"Yeah, I do," she said and skipped off to the car. Clearly, she was not as upset as I was. But I couldn't just let it go.
"Who said you look like a boy?"
"Oh, A. and S. (two three-year-old girls). The boys liked the shirt though".
"well, I like the shirt too. It is awesome!"
I let it go at this point. At least I stopped talking to her about it. But, it still makes me mad. How can the-year-old girls already have such firm gender lines in their head? It is so depressing. And Miss M. hasn't worn the shirt to school since. She does wear it around the house.
I am curious if it was the cut of the shirt that made it a "boy shirt" or the superhero. If I was richer I would buy her a shirt like this so we could do an experiment. What do you think was it the boxy T-shirt that made Miss M. look like a boy or the spiderman?